Sort of.
I say sort of because, they aren’t all hard things. They aren’t difficult. They aren’t big. But we have a hard time doing them.
I had, have two topics that come to mind this week. One about doing those things that are hard or scare us, and the other about connecting. As you might guess from the title, I decided to go with the first one.
Several months ago, maybe even a year or more ago, I finished reading a book, I’m not sure which one now, and the message it left me with was to ‘do the hard thing’. Do the stuff you need to do but don’t want to do. The small niggly stuff. It feels good to get that stuff done and out of the way. And I could probably go on with that idea but this time I want to approach the topic a little differently.
First, I want to share a quote, I came across in another book, just a couple of weeks ago. I even looked it up recently to share it with someone. The quote: “Do the thing, and you shall have the power.” It’s attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson in Essay on Compensation. I’d also like to share something I’ve seen Olivia Newton-John say. Or roughly. She used to say that the two things she was most worried about or afraid of turned out to be the biggest and most impactful and successful of her career. Those things were the movie Grease and the song Physical.
I think a lot of times there is something we really want to do or try but for whatever reason we’re afraid to do it or we’re intimidated by some aspect of it so we maybe don’t ever try it. We decide it’s something out of our reach or just too hard. Or maybe we think the effort is so big that we don’t have the time or the money or the stamina or don’t know enough to do it. Ok. Maybe. I’m not going to judge. I’m going to tell you a couple of things I’ve done. And even what I learned.
I’m going to start with something I did a few years ago. Well, it started even before that. When I moved to the Charlotte area, I got involved in a local group called the Charlotte Blues Jam. I participated once or twice a month for several months, possibly close to a year. Then I took a break. I had reasons at the time. To be honest, I might have been scared. After playing with them a time or two, and not getting completely lost, because at the time all I could say for myself was that I knew a basic 12-bar blues, for the first time I actually felt like I could say I was a musician. Fast forward several years and I decide to join up with the group again. The very first day I returned, with a guitar, to play, I ended up also singing. I’d tried that once before and it hadn’t gone well. So, to decide to try it again, that was a bit of a hard thing.
I’ve probably told the story how this happened, but for a refresh. I had learned a Christmas type blues song to play, thinking someone who normally sang might know it. Someone did but they weren’t in my “band”. When we got on stage to play, I was given the opportunity to sing it if I wanted to play the song. I could easily have said to the singer, ‘no let’s just do whatever you want to do’. I didn’t. I said ok. With my hands and knees shaking I took a deep breath and opened my mouth to sing. And it went quite well.
Getting up on stage with the blues jam the way it is put together in and of itself turns out to be pretty intimidating for people. I find it invigorating. But, to get up and sing. That was a different thing. There’s a little more putting yourself out there when doing that. It wasn’t just making sure I played the right chords and stayed in time. I now had to be on pitch and remember the words and really pay attention to where I was. And then hope my voice didn’t crack and that I didn’t completely suck. That was nerve wracking. But the reaction I got from the drummer, who I’d known since my first outings with the blues jam, said everything I needed to know about how it went, and it felt awesome. And yes, I continued to sing and play and get better at both. And I had a blast every time I did it.
Recently, I’ve been working on my art. And I’ve been working on things that might be a little of a challenge or a bit different, but they are things that when I sit down to work on them as a watercolor painting or as a stippling painting, I am reasonably confident I’ll be able to do it. To create a finished piece that will look something like what I have in mind. There is one subject that I would really like to be able to paint, whether it’s in watercolor or something else. Water. Particularly the ocean, however I’ve got some waterfall and stream pictures I’d like to paint from as well.
Many years ago, I did a couple of pencil drawings of some fairly tame water. It wasn’t the main subject. So, I’ve tried it sort of. Now, I want to paint it as the subject and in color. That’s turned out to be a little intimidating for me. I know it might take more time to do or might not come out right and so I haven’t really given it a try because, well I needed to work on things that I know will be good enough to post on my art prints store.
That all changed this weekend. I finally tried it. About a week ago I roughed in an outline of the key parts of this image with the idea of trying to paint it in watercolor. This weekend I sat down with my watercolors and the roughed in sketch and tried putting color to the paper and creating a painting. It went about as well as I expected. Which is to say, it didn’t result in even a beginning of a possibility. However, it was still successful.
I know. Wait. What?
I had to try it and let it go not right. I had to try it and“fail”. We learn so much from failure. Yeah, we learn to get up and try again. But not everyone does learn that. Some just give up.
Even though the attempt did not end with something I think is salvageable and worth continuing to work on, I was still energized by finally trying it. I no longer wondered if I could do it, or if it would be as bad as I thought it would. It was. And it’s ok. It’s like being afraid of forgetting the words to a song you’re singing on stage. Once you forget some of them a time or two and learn to keep going, it’s not big deal. In Taekwondo we tell people all the time, if you don’t fall down at least once doing some of the kicks you’re not doing it right. When it happens, we applaud, ask if you’re ok, and help you up. You have to get past failing, falling, forgetting in order to go on. So, yes. It isn’t worth salvaging. I’ll post a picture of it with this. And I will be trying again.
So why would I try again? Seriously? Have you not been reading this? I want to paint the ocean. So. Of course, I’m going to try again, just not the same way.
When I got done painting for the night, I realized that I could probably do that same painting I was trying to do if I did it in pastels. And frankly, I’m sure it can be done in oil paints or acrylics as well. Neither of those are mediums that I work in right now. I’ve dabbled in oil. And ultimately, I may try it in oil. However, I really prefer the look of watercolor, and maybe pastel. So, back to the pastels. I know that because of the layering that can be done with pastels and the texture I can get; I can make it work. And that was my first thought for the solution of how I was going to paint this image. So, I started thinking about, and plotting how I wanted to try again using pastels. And then…
After the idea of using pastels to create the painting simmered in my head for a while, I remembered that I have a compound that repels water, and therefore watercolor. And it could work for the areas that I wanted to keep clear of color, because that was one of the big challenges I was running into with the watercolors. There’s a lot of white foamy wave soup in the image. However, there are some limitations and challenges to using the compound. So, it may not be the solution for watercolor, but it is an option. And, with a bit more thought I may come up with a way to use it to make it work.
For now, I’ve decided to start from a different image, and I will probably use pastels to do it. It’s exciting for me, the idea that I may have a way to create some of the art I want to and wasn’t sure I would be able to. Do I expect it to be as big a deal as Grease or Physical? No. Not at all. I have no illusions. And it’s not the point.
The point is that I did the thing that was intimidating me, the thing that I was unsure of, that I was afraid of. And by doing the thing, look what I learned. Look at the options I came up with. And I’m excited about trying again. It’s energizing. That’s the point. That’s the power of ‘doing the thing’.
I’ll leave you with that and hope you have a good week. Cheers!
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Too People-y
I’ve been trying to stay off the soapbox and stick with art or music because, well, there are lots of soapboxes out there with lots of people hanging out on top of them with much more to say and most of what I might say would just be noise. However, I’ve noticed something recently. And it triggered a thought or two. So, I’m going to share that and then get off the soapbox and back to art and music.
Many people I know, would likely say I’m not much of a people person and that I definitely fall in with the people who complain on social media about it being too people-y and about having to deal with people. And not long ago, I probably would have agreed, and related to the memes and laughed at them or commiserated or related. I’ve seen in how I feel about them which is that I don’t relate any more. I don’t find them as funny as I used to. It’s not that my world has changed so much that it doesn’t matter anymore. I work in IT for my day job, and I do sometimes marvel at some of the questions I have to answer from some otherwise very smart people. And yes, there are times, after I’ve answered the same question 4 times that I would prefer to alleviate my frustrations with the person through a little violence. This is one reason I take Taekwondo and my manager encourages me to go to class. That being said, I don’t hate people.
I like people fine. I get along quite well with most people I meet, and I put my best effort into being a welcoming and pleasant person. I’ve got no reason to be nasty to people and I try to show some patience with people, and if the opportunity presents, offer a helping hand or kind word. I’ve even been trying to do a little more of this lately. I don’t always succeed. I’m a work in progress.
One thing I’ve noticed though is the overall apparent decline in civility in the country I live in. People seem easier to anger, quicker with a harsh word, and more likely to avoid, or to want to avoid other people. Now, there is some crazy going on, I won’t deny that. But I think we are in a vicious cycle.
People are angry, scared, frustrated, unhappy, lonely, short-tempered, and hurting on so many levels. They’re like a child who doesn’t have the words for all the feelings that are overwhelming them, so they lash out. And then, other people try not to go out and deal with that. But that just means the people avoiding interactions are making themselves isolated, lonely, intolerant, and letting their social skills rust. Meanwhile, the angry people, the scared people, without a calmer or more positive interaction, or even just a little understanding, are left to their own devices and to feed off each other which just makes them angrier, lonelier, and harsher in their judgement.
I’m not saying put yourself in danger, or harm’s way, or in a position to get hurt. Or even that you need to go out of your way to get out and interact with people. I am suggesting that maybe we all need a bit of practice. Social skills need practice. We have to interact with others to learn how to interact with others. And we have to practice that because it’s really easy when you don’t have to interact with others to forget not to roll your eyes, or make faces, and so on. It’s really easy to not take the time to hear someone out when they want to talk to you about something or express their opinion, or even share something they think is really cool. We get used to living in our own world and forget that other people have their own worlds as well and maybe they want to share it.
I know it isn’t easy, especially these days. And I’m not saying I’m good at it. But when I see some of the memes on social media about not going out because of the people, or ordering online so they don’t have to go to a store and maybe talk to people, I’m not as inclined to hit the like button. Oh, I do share the occasional one that says I have a limit and now I need a shovel. We all have limits. But what if, we exercise our social skills a little more and get a little better at understanding and showing a little more patience and judging a little less. How might things change? Might they “go back” to a time when it didn’t feel so assaultive to be in public? Could we break the cycle we’re in? Could we then not feel as lonely, isolated, scared, angry? And what would that look like? What would that feel like?
Yeah, I get it. It’s a little pollyannaish. And yet, still worth looking at.
I’m going to climb down from the soapbox now and get back to some art.
I am still working on the Koala piece. I knew, when I started it that it was going to take a lot of work, so I’m not surprised to still be working on it. I’ve got a lot completed and it looks much more like the subject. There’s still plenty of refining to do and balancing which means several more hours of work. I’m really looking forward to seeing the end result.
I had planned, over this past weekend to spend time working on the Koala both Saturday and Sunday but it didn’t work out quite as I’d wanted, and I didn’t get to work on it Saturday. However, I got to spend several hours on Sunday working on it. I was really excited about that. It felt great to spend all that time on art and watching the piece build as I worked. I’m hoping to get more time to work this week and maybe a little at the weekend, though I have plans that will impact how much weekend time I have this week.
I have several ideas lined up to work on next, after I finish the Koala. I probably need to choose one and take some time to start the outline/rough in so I’m ready to go as soon as I finish this one. It makes it so much easier to keep the momentum going if I’ve started the next piece before I finish the current piece. The majority of the next pieces I’m planning will be color pieces, I think. One is a question. I’m not sure how I’m going to approach it. I also have another stippling piece planned, though I’m not starting it right away. And I’m still sorting through all the pictures I took in Houston to decide which ones I want to work from. I got some great shots, so I have lots of choices.
I only have a little music stuff to share this time. I had a thunky D string on my Les Paul, so I changed the strings this weekend. Usually, when I change strings, I don’t have music playing. And if I do, I don’t really pay attention to it. This weekend, I was listening to a playlist that I’d really been enjoying, and I did something, I don’t usually do, and haven’t done in a long time. I tried to play along with what I was listening to. I know this is not revolutionary. I know this is how you figure stuff out and learn songs from listening. I do know this. I just haven’t been doing it. There were two songs in particular that I was trying to play along with and as I was doing it, is when I realized something.
I realized, I hadn’t done that in a very, very long time and I was having fun with it because, amazingly, I might have been getting close to something that was almost the right key and maybe chords? That was exciting. It also hit me that one of the next steps for getting better might be to spend more time with the guitar and stereo than with the guitar and TABS. I’m not disrespecting TABS, or sheet music, or any of that. I just know one of the areas that I have always wanted to be better at, and that I’d have to get good at if I want to play some of the songs I like, is being able to learn to play from listening, or ‘by ear’. I’ve been intimidated by the idea of trying to learn from ear for so long, because I had the impression of it being long and tedious, and laborious. And that I’d never get it or be so far off that it was nothing like wheat I was trying to learn. So, to have sat there and done a little of that this weekend was a big step for me. And more fun than I’d expected. Now, to work that into some form of regular practice. It’s kind of exciting.
I probably sound like a broken record or maybe an over enthusiastic teen-ager when I say this, oh well. I am really excited about the current art piece, the Koala, that I’m working on as well as the pieces I have planned. I’ve got so much reference to work from with great shapes, and details, and colors. I can’t wait to get to them all. And on top of that, with the little ‘break through’, if you want to call it that, with the guitar this weekend, I’m super excited to take a new approach to my playing, learning, and practicing. It’s changed some of my mindset and I’m so looking forward to figuring out what I can do. I can’t wait to add more of that to my current routine. I’m excited. It’s going to be cool.
I’m off now to make art and music. And hopefully, someone’s day a little better. Cheers!
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